DIY Spa Night At Home

Last night I had a date with myself & it was the best night ever! I realised this week that I’ve had nothing to really look forward to since Lockdown began, and because of this, I’ve been feeling very meh. So, I decided to plan a spa night to give me something to look forward to.

For this spa date, I didn’t even buy anything for it. I was able to use all the products I’ve had hidden away in my cupboards for ages that I’ve never gotten around to using. Everything else I just made myself with ingredients I had in the pantry!⁣⁣
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Here’s my at-home spa routine if you’d like to follow:
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The Colour of Love

By Carissa McHolme

“Don’t you ever feel like you’re wasting your time?” Zoe asked whilst fidgeting with the elastic around her tiny wrist. “I mean, I know you love him, but you still don’t see colour,” she continued. I instantly replied, “I don’t. Zack makes me feel safe. He may not give colour to my dull world, but he gives me the exact warmth I’m positive shades have. Our love is more powerful than seeing things differently.” Just the thought of him made my heart skip a beat. It was clear that he wasn’t my destined lover, but he was my everything.

            It was Monday morning and Zoe and I were sitting on the train to work together. It was true, despite how much I loved Zack; I still didn’t see the world in anything other than black and white with many shades of grey. Meeting your soulmate was supposed to cause your world to explode in colour. Yet here I was, 5 years into my relationship, and still waiting to experience even a slight glimpse of a pale warm shade.  

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Explaining Depression in a Non Scientific Way

When I hear people categorise depression as "sadness" it just makes me realise how little they actually know about the condition. Depression is NOT sadness. Instead, it's more like a cloak of inability. It suffocates your ability to do or think anything except numbness. It causes you to function in a dream-like state. It clouds your thoughts and shuts off your filter system. It overtakes you. It paralyses you. But it is not sadness. 

Imagine you are swimming in a pool with someone, when suddenly they are keeping you pushed under the water whilst you struggle to hold your breath any longer. Your mind begins racing, you begin to freak out- but are unable to do anything as someone else's strength is keeping you under. That is what depression feels like. You are not in control of it, and it is as if something else is your puppet master. It comes out of nowhere. A person suffering from depression may have just had an amazing day (even the best day of their life) when suddenly this clouding sensation overtakes their brain. They may put on a mask and appear to be continuing to have an amazing day. Still laughing, but inside they can't wait to just go home and be alone. Once arriving home they may spend hours upon hours just laying/sitting in one place and not moving. To them, not much time has passed. No thoughts have even occurred in their mind. All they feel is nothing. Suddenly all their motivation and energy has disappeared. It's as if the little moment of happiness had to be exchanged for this. This feeling may last a few minutes, to even several days (or weeks.)

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The Perfect Valentines Gift!

Personally, I have never gotten too involved in Valentines Day. I've never understood why you must wait until the specific date of February 14th to let someone know just how you feel for them. I'm a firm believer that if you have feelings, you should let them be known. Imagine how many potential relationships don't happen because one individual is waiting for the "perfect time" to open up. Let's be real, timing is never perfect. Life happens. So stop allowing the excuse of perfect moments ruin things for you. On the other side of the spectrum- those that are already in a relationship: once again, why wait until Feb 14th to surprise your other? If you seriously wait 356 days just to write a cute note confessing how you feel, or to buy a box of chocolates, you need a boot up the derriere. Not only are you out of touch with your emotions, but shops are also very wise to people like you. Which is why every single box of chocolates, every rose, everything which screams "romance" (as said by the mass producers) increases its cost to something drastic like $25 for a card.

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The Perfect Date Night!

You’ve had this date booked for over a week now. You’ve been counting down the days, then hours until it’s here. Finally, the night has arrived. It is Date Night! I don’t mean your typical: two-person date night. No. I’m talking about the DN that is even more exciting (and important) than that. I’m talking about your solo night to yourself. I can’t stress enough just how important it is to spend time alone. To spoil yourself completely. Some people couldn’t think of anything worse than spending half a night alone- let alone a whole, but I will always look forward to my DN with myself. I believe it’s one of the healthiest things: being able to be by yourself- and to enjoy it. If you can’t handle you- how can anyone else?

 Let me tell you exactly how my perfect DN goes and then maybe you too will learn to love this night almost as much as a typical one.

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It’s Time to Dip Your Toes

I’m not going to lie, or sugar coat it for you: life can be stressful. Unless you’re a sloth, who spends 18 hours of the day sleeping, and the other hours eating; you would already be very aware of this. There are so many things in life we feel pressured to throw upon ourselves. The effort we continuously put in for work; in an attempt that our boss may finally one day appreciate us and give us that promotion we long deserve. Those countless petty disagreements you have with your best friend. Shaving your long-haired dog every single week in summer because their hair seems to be mocking your balding husband (and you can’t have that). The list of stress is endless. Let’s face it; some of the things we allow to hassle us aren’t actually that stressful, but that doesn’t stop us from freaking out in the meantime.  What I’m about to tell you now is going to save you hundreds, or possibly thousands of dollars, in future therapy bills that you’ll have when you finally snap with the weight of life.

You need to have a break. By break, I don’t mean a 2 week paid vacation from work and commitments in general (although that would be nice). It’s just not possible to do every single week. What I mean by break is a 10minute - 1 hour ‘recess’ once a day (you know you can have it seeing as you took the time to even read this article), and literally devote that time solely to yourself. You may live near a park, walk there and literally just sit on a bench alone for ten minutes. Take your shoes off and let your feet enjoy the feeling of the grass. Another example of a break would be sitting on a nice comfy chair and read some inspirational quotes (admit it you love purposefully searching quotes that relate to your current emotional state). If none of these examples inspire you to have a break; find something you enjoy doing to relax. Humans were not made to constantly live off adrenaline, eventually, that wears out. Let yourself have an extremely short solo vacation each and every day just to recharge. You could even take this time to plan your dream holiday that you one day want to take! It’s amazing how being alone can wipe stress away.

If you already take the time to devote to yourself daily, let us all know what your recess includes. Life isn’t meant to be stressful, nor does it have to be. Be free to be you

                                                                                                            

Until next time,

xox

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3,2,1 GOAL!

New Years has come and gone, just as the many resolutions that were destined to fail within the 72 hours of being professed have. “I’ll sign up to the gym and go every single day!” That one failed before the hangover even had time to set in on the 1st. “I’m going to quit my job and do the one thing I’m passionate about most!” Had you even dipped a toe into the thing that you're most passionate about prior to this sweeping declaration? If not, I can assure you, quitting a job and diving into an empty pool full of concrete is not a good idea. Let’s face it: New Years is the guaranteed date many promises we continuously make to ourselves are created- only to be broken. Why are we okay with creating a tradition in letting ourselves down? Usually, you would feel bad in letting a close friend down over a small matter, so why do we continuously not even think twice about religiously making a giant resolution (we will probably give up on) each and every year? Why is “New Year, New You” such an important thing? I can answer that question for you right now: It’s not! Instead I’ve come up with an alternative to the tradition of your New Years broken promise to yourself. That being: The Weekly Goal.

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